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Consider How You Want Them to Feel

If you work in an organization with other people, this is the time of year that you’re likely having conversations about goals and expectations for the year. You may be the boss having those talks with your team members. You may be the team member talking with your boss. You may be both.

It’s natural to approach the conversation with a focus on what you want out of it. You have hopes and expectations for the new year. Maybe you want to push the reset button and put things on a new path. No problems with that. It’s all good.

Here’s a tip for a successful conversation. Don’t make it all about you. Focus on the other person in the conversation. Ask about what they want. Ask how you can help. Maybe most importantly, before you start the conversation, ask yourself how you want them to feel after the conversation.

How the other person feels at the end will be a big factor in what happens after the meeting. And just to be clear, I’m not talking about thinking about what you want them to do. I’m talking about how you want them ...

How Baby Steps Can Keep You on Track This Year

Have you found yourself already Googling the topic, "Why do New Year’s resolutions fail?” On what is, for many of us, the first full workday of 2015, I’m reminded that this is where the rubber meets the road in terms of all the intentions and resolutions that were made over the holidays.

There’s a lot of research and opinions out there about why resolutions fail. In this post, I want to focus on one big idea about how to make them successful. It’s baby steps. Take them. Love them. Celebrate them. Revel in them.

Baby steps, when focused on a goal and consistently taken, lead to big results. They enable you to make progress by solving for 2 percent or 5 percent instead of 100 percent. Here are a few stories -- one about the Beatles, one about yoga and one about business -- that illustrate what I mean by that. The stories are followed by five principles for applying baby steps that have worked for me and my clients. Please read on and share your thoughts and questions in the comments.

One of my own intentions this year is to take advantage of technology to learn new ...

15 Ways to Get Ready for the New Year

As the year winds down and the holiday season is upon us, it’s a great time to reflect on 2014 and plan for 2015. (I wrote a post last week on the reflecting part. Tune in next Monday for the planning part.) When I look back on 2014, one of the biggest things I see in the rearview mirror is the release a couple of months ago of my newest book, Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative

If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you’ve read plenty about the book this year. What you may have missed, though, is a lot of the original articles I wrote and interviews I did on the book for other websites, publications and radio shows. Thinking that you may have a little more free time than usual over the next couple of weeks, here’s a recap of 15 articles that just might help you get ready for the new year.

First up, I wrote two articles this year for MindBodyGreen.comThe latest is 20 Mindful Habits to Practice for a Happier Holiday. The first was 24 Ways to Be Mindful All Day, Every Day.

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How to Avoid the Disaster of Leadership Vertigo

Is there a gap between how you view the impact of your leadership and the way others view or experience it? If there is, then you’re suffering from what leadership expert, speaker and author Tanveer Naseer calls “leadership vertigo.” That’s actually the title of a new book that Naseer has co-authored with S. Max Brown. As Tanveer explains it in a recent conversation he had with me, leadership vertigo occurs when your brain tells you one thing and the facts tell you another. Just as vertigo can lead to disaster in the rest of life, leadership vertigo can lead to disaster in organizational life.

In this recording of our brief conversation, Tanveer clearly outlines four principles that can help you avoid leadership vertigo. Even if you don’t think you need to, you’ll want to give this a listen. It might just save you from a leadership disaster.

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First Reflect, Then Project

We’re very close to the time of year when people start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions. There’s just something about that blank calendar (or at least more blank than your end of 2014 calendar) that makes hope spring forth that the coming year will be different in the ways that matter most. It’s a good exercise for sure. As the Cheshire Cat said to Alice, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” It makes sense to set some goals for a new year and to reverse engineer back from those goals to identify the specific actions that will likely get you there.

I’m going to lead you through a process for doing that on December 29, the last Mindful Monday of 2014. That process will be based on my new book, Overworked and Overwhelmed: The Mindfulness Alternative (which is now out in an audio edition – perfect for those who are too overworked and overwhelmed to read the book and just in time for those holiday road trips!) In the meantime, though, I want to encourage you to take some time to reflect before you project.

Between now ...