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Five Things That Changed My Life Over Five Years

Today is my 55th birthday. Yes, I said it. It’s part of my new policy of radical transparency. There was a time in my life when 55 sounded really old. Now that I’m there, I realize how relative that is. Old compared to what or who?

It seems especially relative when I consider all that has happened in the five years since I turned 50. I was looking back yesterday on a blog post I wrote then. I pretty much still agree with everything I wrote five years ago but am struck by how much my life has changed since then. Five years ago, I lived in Herndon, Virginia. Now, I live in Santa Monica, California. When I turned 50, I was just beginning to figure out to manage the multiple sclerosis I had been diagnosed with two years earlier. Today, for now, I know much more about how to take care of myself. Speaking of the MS, five years ago that was a secret that Diane and I shared with only a few very close friends and family members. We were scared that if we told everyone, people would think I couldn’t be depended upon to...

Three Simple Steps for More Mindful Leadership

Every so often I have the nice surprise of talking with someone who was in one of my leadership programs a few years earlier. It happened again last week when I was conducting colleague feedback interviews for an executive coaching client. As I started one call with a guy named Ben,  I said, “I don’t think we’ve had the opportunity to talk before have we?” Ben graciously reminded me that he was one of the participants in a Mindful Leadership workshop I conducted at his company a couple of years ago. I apologized for missing the connection and he couldn’t have been nicer. He went on to say that he is still using and benefiting from a number of things we went over in the workshop.

I always love hearing that and asked Ben to share with me specifically what he was doing. It didn’t take him long at all to come up with three examples. Interestingly, they are three of the things that are on the short list of takeaways that past participants almost always tell me they’re still doing when I have the opportunity to talk with them down the road.

Since they...

Nail Your Next Public Speaking Gig With These Three Tips

If you’re in a leadership role of almost any type, the odds are high that you have to do some sort of public speaking on a semi-regular basis. It could be a staff meeting, a board presentation, a town-hall meeting or a conference keynote. Your public speaking possibilities are endless, really. Do you enjoy them or dread them? Nail them or muff them?

It seems like most people dread them and usually don’t feel like they’ve nailed it after speaking in public. As someone who delivers 40 or 50 speeches and presentations to clients every year, it’s a good thing that I actually enjoy speaking. I’ve worked hard over the years to get better and better as a speaker and take the feedback I get from audiences seriously. The feedback has gotten better and better over the years, so it seems like the work I’ve been doing is paying off. There are three things in particular that I’ve learned to focus on when speaking. They’re simple but powerful ideas. In the hopes that they’ll help you too, here they are:

Mindset: Several years ago, I was booked for my first keynote...

Why You Should Take Time to Connect With Colleagues

Last week, I had two reminders of how important it is to take some time to connect with other people. We leave so much value on the table when we don’t.

The first reminder was when I had a group of corporate leaders in a Developing Leadership Presence program we started last week take part in a transformational listening conversation on what they’re grateful for. As they sat in groups of three for 15 minutes, I heard laughter and saw tears of joy and gratitude. This was among a group of people who didn’t know each other five hours earlier.

When, during a debrief, I asked them to describe what had just happened, one woman shared that she was struck by how quickly she went deep in conversation with someone she really didn’t know. In reflecting on the conversation, she said it made her realize how much she is missing in her daily interactions with the people she works with. “The person on the other end of that annoying email I just got is a real person,” she said, “They have a family, a history, a backstory of things they care about. They’re not just...

Three Things Leaders Can Learn From Peyton Manning

It wasn’t a great game, but it was a win. For Peyton Manning, it was, in all probability, his last as an NFL quarterback. After 18 years of the sacks, injuries and surgeries that come with a career in the League, the soon to be 40-year-old Manning managed the Broncos’ offense well enough to enable its defense to win the 50th Super Bowl.

There are Peyton Manning fans and Peyton Manning haters. Personally, I don’t have strong feelings about him either way but I found a lot to admire in Manning in how he conducted himself in preparing for and playing the Super Bowl and what he said after it was over. There was a lot there that I think anyone could learn about how to handle yourself as life catches up with your talents and skills.

Know your role. Time and injuries caught up with Manning this year. He was benched for several weeks in the regular season to rehab an injured foot. The Broncos kept winning while he was out and a lot of commentators thought Manning would not be back on the field. When he did come back in the last game of the season...