Our job is where we spend the majority of our waking hours, and where stress, worry, and frustration can easily impede our performance, productivity, and workplace relationships. Here are 7 easy ways to stay upbeat and positive, and to flip bad moods into good ones quickly and effectively.
1. Stop "what-iffing" and "deadlining."
"What-iffing" is when your thoughts are fixated on the past--what you did wrong in the meeting, or why you got passed up for the promotion. "Deadlining" is when your thoughts are focused on the future--worrying about the project that has to get done or wondering how the client will react to your presentation. Unhappiness is caused by thinking about the past or the future. When you're completely "in the now," you can't be unhappy. Stop what you're doing, take some breaths, and just "be." When you have a past- or future-focused thought, flick it away. Even if you can sustain this activity for literally two minutes, it will help you feel better--especially if you're under a lot of stress. It will give you a "happiness break."
2. Drown out negative chatter.
Counteract an unhappy thought with a statement that's irrefutable and 100% true. The negative chatter that goes on inside our head is untrue and based on false assumptions derived from anger, sadness, and fear. You can interrupt thoughts by finding a statement that's true and repeating it over and over until you feel better. For example, instead of "I'll never get all of this done in time," you can say "I'll do what I can." If you can find a contradictory statement to repeat that's 100% true, it will change your mood.
3. Be grateful, not grumpy.
Think of something you're grateful for. This simple technique really works wonders. The next time you're feeling overwhelmed, depleted, or unhappy at work, simply close your eyes and think hard about one thing that makes you happy. This is the idea behind why pets help people who are in distress. When people focus on how much they love their pet, for example, other issues take a back seat. You can't think about something you're grateful for and something you're unhappy about at the same time.
4. Say NO! to "trash thinking."
Trash thinking is like trash talking. It's putting yourself or someone else down. Most of us are aware of when we're thinking mean thoughts about a coworker, client, or employee, or when we're being hypercritical about ourselves. The first step is to be aware. The second step is to say "no." You can even say it out loud at a good volume: "NO!" Find a private space and stomp around the room and yell it. Pretty soon you'll be smiling again. Probably even laughing!
5. Be the "happy one" at work.
Moods are contagious, and when you become known at work for being ridiculously, unstoppably upbeat, people will begin to smile before you even open your mouth. You can avoid the common squabbles and doldrums employees and bosses suffer simply by smiling a lot at the beginning of your day and saying out loud, "What a gorgeous day for data entry," or "Isn't it nice to be employed?" People will love to work with you because you're happy. What they don't know is that you're making yourself happy too!
6. Just get over it.
Practice accepting what is. When we stop expecting people and situations to be different than they are, we're instantaneously less frustrated and more able to look within to decide what we want or need to do currently. Remind yourself, "People and things are the way they are, not the way I want them to be." If you can get over your frustration that things aren't the way you want them to be, you will enjoy yourself more and maybe even learn a new way of approaching a problem.
7. Wear someone else's shoes.
Instead of being self-absorbed, it's a great practice to suspend your own position and just listen in order to understand where someone else is coming from. You don't have to agree, but listening well is the ultimate in giving and will bring you feelings of connection and love. Happiness at work comes when we have a sense of fellow feeling with our coworkers--that we're all in this together, and we have each others' backs.
Want to find out more about the attitudes and emotions that dominate your character and may be sabotaging your business success or happiness at work? Take a quick self-quiz here, and then try the coping strategies designed to address them.